Last week I talked about showing high value and mentioned that her being attracted to you isn't enough. This week I'll go into why that is and what to do about it.
If you've done everything right from last week the girl's should be eating out of your hand. They LOVE you and want to go home with you. But, you still need one more thing before you can close the deal. You have to qualify her. This makes her feel special. If you don't do this she may come home with you, but then not want to have sex because she could be just any girl. She needs to know you want to be with HER and not just any girl. It also allows her to feel like she's doing the right thing by having sex so soon.
Sex is often the only card many women have to play. Many women worry about how soon to have sex. On the one hand she doesn't want to appear too easy. But, on the other, she knows a high value man like yourself won't wait forever. She knows there are plenty of women willing to have sex with you. So, she has to walk a thin line between good girl and bad girl. Then pile on top of that her own desires for sex and it's no wonder why women are so unsure about this.
So, you'll have to build rapport with her. You have to find a quiet place where the two of you can talk and get to know each other on a deeper, wider level. You cannot fake this. It has to be real. She wants to feel a connection with you. Trust and a sense of comfort.
The way you know she's ready to build rapport is she'll be asking you questions like “what's your name?” and “what do you do?” When she does this, she's hooked and wants to build rapport with you.
Once you start building rapport you can ask her about her passions, dreams, heroes, hopes, fears and her philosophy of life. Ask her about her carrier and what she finds “most fulfilling” about it. Unless she has a crap job like waitress or cashier at Wal Mart. As your talking you will find something you both have in common.
While in rapport you are helping her to show you her value as a person. The reason she needs this is because she's thinking “Wow! What a cool guy! I'll bet he gets a lot of girls. But, I don't want to be just another notch on his bedpost. I want him to know how special I am.” But, she doesn't know how to show you. You have to help her.
So, ask her questions you know she'll pass. Examples: “Are you adventurous?” “Are you spontaneous?” “You're not one of those party girls that stays out late and does drugs all the time are you?” The key to qualifying her is to tell her what's unique about her and contrast that with all the other girls.
Once you've qualified her you can kiss and make out with her. But, don't let it go too far. You don't want to get into the realm of foreplay. You can caress her arms, back and thighs. You can kiss her deeply, with tongues, bite her neck and ears. You can pull her hair and even fondle her breasts and butt a little. But, that's all. You have to step on the breaks before it goes too far. If you don't, she likely won't return your phone calls.
The reason is, doing what she did in a bar with you made her feel slutty when she got home. She was carried away by her emotions, she'd had too much to drink and she knows the only thing you want from her is more of that. She's thinking “I was drunk, it didn't count.” So, stop it before it goes too far.
See if she'll change venues with you. Invite her to get something to eat or to another nightclub. Think of a reason she should come back to your place. If you're a pot smoker, this is often a very good reason to come back to your place. Tell her you and your friends are going to keep the party going. Or you have a cool thing back at your place she's just got to see. The point is she needs a reason to go home with you other than sex.
This isn't a trick. She's not stupid. She knows if she goes back to your place sex is likely to happen. Moreover, if she's willing to go to your place, she probably wants it happen too. But, many women need an excuse. This is why so many women never carry condoms. To carry a condom means you're planning to have sex. Only sluts do that. But, if sex “just happens,” it's okay.
Just remember, she still has the right to say no. If you try to force it you could end up having to register every time you change your address and that is not a display of higher value. So, be persistent, but don't push. I've explained how to get through her resistance in an earlier blog. So, if you have any questions about that, look through my older posts.
