Okay, so you've taken her on a great date. You both had a fun and you've been slowly escalating your physical touch. You're both feeling the heat. It's on and you know it. But, you may still have a couple of hurdles to clear.
Before we get into what to do I want to discuss why a woman may resist sex even when she really wants it. There are two main reasons. The first is social pressure. She doesn't want you, or anyone else, thinking she's a slut. If she offers herself to soon others may look down on her. So, you have to stop thinking if she has sex with you too soon she's a slut. You must never judge her in this way. She needs to know you won't think any less of her.
The other reasons have to do with her evolutionary programming. Until the last 100 years or so, many women died during child birth. It isn't much of an issue today. But, she is programed to have a certain amount of fear and reluctance to a new sexual partner. This is because women invest much more in the continuation of our species than men do. A man only gives up a little sperm. But, a woman gives up nine months of her life to grow a child inside her and may even risk death. She may not know why she's feeling this need to resist. But, she feels like she's just put all her money on red and the wheel is spinning.
She needs to know you'll be around to help her if she gets pregnant. Truthfully, she may not even want you around. And she likely doesn't want to get pregnant. She just wants it to be up to her. 10,000 years ago a pregnant woman with no man didn't stand much of a chance of survival. Things are different today, but we were programmed to live back then. We're old models living in a new world and evolution hasn't caught up.
How long a woman waits before having sex is a huge concern. If she gives in too soon will you still cherish her? If she waits to long will you leave her for a woman that's more willing? Personally, if I sleep with a woman once, I'm planing on doing it many more times. But, if we've spent more than about 20 hours together and she still doesn't want to have sex with me, I'm cutting my losses and finding another woman.
As men it's our job to ease her through any reluctance she may be feeling. She has to want it as much as you do or you could end up in a date rape law suit. Remember no means no. Even when the both of you are completely nude, in bed and you're about to enter her. If she says no, YOU MUST STOP.
Let's get real here. Women aren't stupid. They know sex could happen when they go up to your place. Moreover, if she comes over she probably wants sex. But, that doesn't mean it's a given. She still wants to have the option of stopping. If you decided it was off, it would be off. You have to allow her the same power. However, if you follow the simple rules I'm going to give you she won't want to stop.
So, the first thing is to move slowly. I covered this a little last time, but it bears repeating. If at any time you feel her start to tense up or she feels the least bit uncomfortable STOP. Rewind and go back. She's having fun, but you cannot rush her. You're the driver, but you have to move at her pace. If you can stop just slightly BEFORE she says stop it will drive her wild with desire. You'll be teasing her and she'll love it and want you all the more.
Start by having her help you set the mood. Toss her some matches and say “Light the candles while I wash up.” Then go in the bathroom and wash your cock.
When you come out ask her if she wants to wash up while you turn on some music or start the DVD player or whatever you have planned. This will help her to get into the mood and she'll appreciate it.
There are three common times when she'll try to stop you. The first is when you start to remove her shirt and/or bra. She may say something like, “maybe we should stop.” If this happens agree with her. Tell her yes, you should stop. But, keep going. She didn't say stop. She said “maybe.”
If she still resists, stop. Stop kissing her. Stop cuddling with her. Stop touching her completely. If she asks you what's wrong don't get angry and do not whine. I'm sure you've tried both of these tactics already and know they don't work. Instead, tell her you understand. But, do not touch her for about five minutes. She may ask if you're angry. Tell her she said no and you respect that. In fact, hearing no turns you off. You're not mad, but making out leads to sex and if she doesn't want to have sex there are lots of other things the two of you can do. Then get up and check your email or something. Do this flatly, without emotion. Be indifferent.
She may try to get things moving again by kissing the back of your neck or caressing you. If she does tell her to take off her top. If she refuses just wait five minutes and you start again. Kiss her for a minute or so and tell her to take her top off. If she does you can get back to making out.
You want her to be bored and feel a little uncomfortable NOT making out with you. What's going on in her head is things were feeling good and now it's stopped. She doesn't want it to stop, so she has to follow your lead by taking of her top.
This is important because you are not forcing yourself on her. She is part of the seduction. It's mutual.
She may stop you again when you go for her pants. Again, tell her you understand and stop touching her. Turn on the TV or something. Do the least sexy thing you can think you can think of. Now she's the one that's frustrated. Give her about ten minutes this time and start again. Tell her to take off her pants.
Every time she says no or stop, you will stop and do what I said above. EVERY TIME.
Now, you're both nude. She's wet and you're hard. Do not enter her yet. Tease her first. Rub the head of your cock all around her pussy. Keep kissing her and playing with her breasts and rubbing her with your cock. Soon she'll say she wants you inside her. But, don't do it yet. Just continue teasing her. She may say “please” and start to beg. But, wait until she's asked for your prick three times. Then give her just a little bit of it and take it away. She'll beg for more and you can give her a little more. Keep this game going for fifteen or twenty minutes until she is about to burst.
Now, you can fuck her like there's no tomorrow! Enjoy yourself.
