Example

This is from an online, email conversation I had with an attractive young lady on a dating site. It has a very good example of how things go even in real life. Enjoy!

Me: Do you want to rob a bank with me? I'll drive the getaway car while you go inside and grab the cash. Then we'll fly to Las Vegas, get married in one of those cheesy little places, have wild parties with showgirls and Elvis impersonators, argue because you don't want to name our first child Otto (even if it's a girl), get a divorce and spend the rest of our lives growing old, lonely and depressed.

But, we'll always remember Vegas.

Her: can I drive? I'm not very intimidating. :-)

Me: What? No way! Then I'd have to do the dangerous part. I could be shot. I'm very sensitive you know.

Her: well they won't listen to me. you are probably much more intimidating than me. they would just laugh and take my gun away.

Me: Well, you'll just have to find the bitch goddess within. You are Kali the destroyer! You can do it! Be assertive.

Or we could just have a coffee.


Her: lol, I might be able to get my boyfriend to do it. :-)

but coffee is always good.

Me: You have a boyfriend? That rocks! You should totally get him to do it. Then you could be the look out. We'll ditch him when we get to Vegas.

Her: I think he might have something to say about that. :-) but if he would that would be cool.

Me: We won't tell him about the ditching part. He wouldn't like that. We'll just find him some bimbo to keep him busy while you and I split his cut. Then we'll catch another flight to Rio and bask in the sun. He'll wake up hung over and confused and we'll be having tropical drinks on sandy beaches.

Her: lol, I don't know if that would work. but it might.

Me: Sure it'll work. I'm the king of clever plans! All my friends tell me "Ray, you always have the most clever plans." I'm a clever kind of guy.

You're a cool chick. I like you. Most women don't get this kind of thing. But, you're different.

Her: but then again lots of women are uptight bitches. and another thing, how do you know you won't be waking up hungover and with the bimbo?

Me: I'd be okay with that. I'm not very materialistic. I'd chalk it up as a fun weekend.

I have an intuition about you. I think your sexuality is fractured.

Her: what do you mean, fractured?

Me: On the one hand, you need a man that loves and cherishes you. A man that remembers your birthday and buys you flowers. But on the other hand, you also need a man that grabs you by the hair, drags you to his cave and pounds you like a dirty little slut. It's hard to find a man that can address both sides isn't it?

Her: yeah, but I have alot of people trying. I think my bf is doing pretty good so far.

Me: That's great! You two should get married, buy a little house, get a dog and have a couple of kids.

Then, after a few years, once you've decided pretty good isn't really enough you can cheat with me. So, you'd better get my number while you have the chance.

Her: hell no, I don't want kids and I sure as hell won't be settling down for a long time.

Me: Awesome! Settling down is over rated. You have a great attitude! And a good energy. You have a quick mind and from what I've seen, a dazzling personality. You've impressed me and that doesn't happen very often. Keep up the good work!

Her: thank you. you seem pretty cool to, I wouldn't mind hanging out sometime, but it probably won't be to soon seeing as your in Big Springs.

Me: I just moved here last week and there is NOTHING to do in Big Spring. So, I've been going to Midland whenever I get a chance. My number is 817 *** ****. Send me a text sometime if you want to do something interesting and have some stimulating conversation. But, I work nights. So it'll have to be in the afternoon.

Now, tell me your name.

Her: oh I thought I already had, name is ****. and my # is (432)***-****. I work 7-5 mon-fri. but text anytime it doesn't matter at work.

Texting

Oops. I simply for got to post a blog on Monday. Sorry about that. Here it is, better late than never.

Over the last couple of years I've all but eliminated actual phone calls in favor of texting. I find it has many advantages over phone calls. For one, you are more likely to get through. She can check a text almost anywhere and at anytime. It doesn't matter if she's in a loud bar or at work. Whereas, she may never check her voice mail. Another advantage is you have that extra few seconds to think about what to say. No more stuttering into the answering machine. Lastly, she may not answer a number she doesn't know. But, she'll likely read a text message.

But, that doesn't mean you can text her anything. “Yo wha s'up?” ain't gonna make it. You'll have to be more creative than that. Also, avoid text speak unless your message is getting too long. You have 160 spaces you can fill before you need to start texting 2 instead of too.

It's also important to watch your spelling. You're cell phone probably has some kind of predictive text option. Use it! If you still can't figure out a spelling, use a different word. You'll come off better if everything is spelled correctly.

Don't send all those bullshit pics everyone forwards around to each other. Sometimes they're good for a giggle, but it doesn't help you to look creative. Instead, come up with something clever yourself. Something like “Hey, is this the girl that fell in love with me last night?” isn't bad. It's cocky, flirtatious and plants a seed in her mind.

In fact, that is the frame you want to suggest as much as you can. Twist whatever she says into how she is either in love with you or she wants to have sex with you. But, try to avoid getting all gooey about it. If she denies having the hots for you, tell her she's just playing hard to get or that she's doing a pretty good job of hiding it, but you know what's really on her mind.

Rapport

Last week I talked about showing high value and mentioned that her being attracted to you isn't enough. This week I'll go into why that is and what to do about it.

If you've done everything right from last week the girl's should be eating out of your hand. They LOVE you and want to go home with you. But, you still need one more thing before you can close the deal. You have to qualify her. This makes her feel special. If you don't do this she may come home with you, but then not want to have sex because she could be just any girl. She needs to know you want to be with HER and not just any girl. It also allows her to feel like she's doing the right thing by having sex so soon.

Sex is often the only card many women have to play. Many women worry about how soon to have sex. On the one hand she doesn't want to appear too easy. But, on the other, she knows a high value man like yourself won't wait forever. She knows there are plenty of women willing to have sex with you. So, she has to walk a thin line between good girl and bad girl. Then pile on top of that her own desires for sex and it's no wonder why women are so unsure about this.

So, you'll have to build rapport with her. You have to find a quiet place where the two of you can talk and get to know each other on a deeper, wider level. You cannot fake this. It has to be real. She wants to feel a connection with you. Trust and a sense of comfort.

The way you know she's ready to build rapport is she'll be asking you questions like “what's your name?” and “what do you do?” When she does this, she's hooked and wants to build rapport with you.

Once you start building rapport you can ask her about her passions, dreams, heroes, hopes, fears and her philosophy of life. Ask her about her carrier and what she finds “most fulfilling” about it. Unless she has a crap job like waitress or cashier at Wal Mart. As your talking you will find something you both have in common.

While in rapport you are helping her to show you her value as a person. The reason she needs this is because she's thinking “Wow! What a cool guy! I'll bet he gets a lot of girls. But, I don't want to be just another notch on his bedpost. I want him to know how special I am.” But, she doesn't know how to show you. You have to help her.

So, ask her questions you know she'll pass. Examples: “Are you adventurous?” “Are you spontaneous?” “You're not one of those party girls that stays out late and does drugs all the time are you?” The key to qualifying her is to tell her what's unique about her and contrast that with all the other girls.

Once you've qualified her you can kiss and make out with her. But, don't let it go too far. You don't want to get into the realm of foreplay. You can caress her arms, back and thighs. You can kiss her deeply, with tongues, bite her neck and ears. You can pull her hair and even fondle her breasts and butt a little. But, that's all. You have to step on the breaks before it goes too far. If you don't, she likely won't return your phone calls.

The reason is, doing what she did in a bar with you made her feel slutty when she got home. She was carried away by her emotions, she'd had too much to drink and she knows the only thing you want from her is more of that. She's thinking “I was drunk, it didn't count.” So, stop it before it goes too far.

See if she'll change venues with you. Invite her to get something to eat or to another nightclub. Think of a reason she should come back to your place. If you're a pot smoker, this is often a very good reason to come back to your place. Tell her you and your friends are going to keep the party going. Or you have a cool thing back at your place she's just got to see. The point is she needs a reason to go home with you other than sex.

This isn't a trick. She's not stupid. She knows if she goes back to your place sex is likely to happen. Moreover, if she's willing to go to your place, she probably wants it happen too. But, many women need an excuse. This is why so many women never carry condoms. To carry a condom means you're planning to have sex. Only sluts do that. But, if sex “just happens,” it's okay.

Just remember, she still has the right to say no. If you try to force it you could end up having to register every time you change your address and that is not a display of higher value. So, be persistent, but don't push. I've explained how to get through her resistance in an earlier blog. So, if you have any questions about that, look through my older posts.

Value

If there is one idea men don't understand about women I think it must be that women want sex as much as we do. As men we're raised to believe women are soft, delicate creatures. We're raised to think women not only don't actively seek out sex, but don't even want it! Nothing could be further from the truth. If women really didn't enjoy and want sex our mating dance would be very different indeed. Women do want and enjoy sex. Women are just a little more choosy about their partners than men are.

I think the easiest way to understand a woman's sexual identity is to view her has having two sides. The first side needs to be cherished, loved an cared for. The other side needs to be grabbed by the hair, drug back to your cave and fucked like a dirty little slut. This is why women often go with a “jerk” that may be bad for them instead of a man that “treats her with respect.” The “jerk,” of course, isn't a jerk from her perspective. He's a man that addresses her sexual desires. While the “nice guy” tries to get into her pants by becoming her friend first. The nice guy is being dishonest. He wants sex and she knows it, but he's trying to hide it from her thinking she doesn't really want it as much as he does and he'll have to give her something to get it from her. He assumes she's a prostitute and that's not respectful. It's our role, as men, to ride the line between cherishing her and fucking her.

I mentioned last week about crossing her lines and making mistakes. This week I'll go into how you can know when you've crossed the line. Maybe before it's too late. This is called calibration and it takes time to get good at it. But, understanding the clues and reading her body language will become second nature soon enough.

Say I walked into a room and started talking to you. You don't know me and therefore you'll only give me a few seconds to see if I'm going to improve your life or have you looking for a way to get rid of me. It depends on what and how I say something as to whether or not you become interested.

So, I walk in and tell a joke. By doing this I'm attempting to show you I have high value. If you like the joke you may respond with interest. I have shown I have a high enough value to gain your attention at least for a few minutes. I show high value, you show interest.

But, suppose the joke wasn't funny. In that case I've wasted your time and you will respond with disinterest. I have shown myself to have a low value to you. This showing of value and interest underlies all human communications. In fact it's all we ever communicate to one another with only one exception.

The exception is to test for compliance. Are others going along for the ride? If so you have some compliance. If not you haven't shown enough value. This is one of the lines I was talking about that needs to be crossed many times. In the beginning you'll have to push every interaction as far as you can. You have to learn the subtle cues people show as they lose or gain interest.

Basically, you can tell a lot by their body language. Think of an arrow pointing out of their chests. Is it pointing generally to you or away from you? If it's pointing away you may be better off ending the interaction, cutting your losses and finding another girl to talk to.

When you first approach a woman or group of people you'll have a few seconds to show value. If you can show value, you'll be given another minute or so to show more value. So, how do you show value?

Value is shown in not only by what you say, but how you say it as well. It doesn't matter how good my story is if I don't tell it well.

The first step is to lose your agenda. You aren't trying to get her phone number. You're not trying to get a date. You aren't trying to have sex with her. Yet. That part comes later.

For now all you're doing is talking to her. You're just checking to see if she has any interest in you. If she does, she'll respond with positive body language and you can go from there.

Your goal is for everything you do to show value. When you learn to do that the world will open up for you in ways you never imagined.

Here's a list of things that show low value and should therefore be avoided:

Being Tense, fidgety movements, tight shoulders, taking yourself too seriously, being too business like.

Talking too fast.

Laughing when it's inappropriate, laughing at your own jokes.

Mumbling or speaking too quietly.

Big arm movements.

Standing with your feet too close together.

Leaning in also called “pecking.”

Turning to face her before she turns to face you.

Chasing her, working for her approval.

Not having standards.

Not being more into your wing man than the women.

Replying with overly thought out answers.

Using too many words to make your point.

Over compensating for insecurities, failures or short comings.

Being bold instead of confident.

Teasing her when you should be in rapport and vining with her.

Revealing too much too soon.

Now, let's cover a few ways to display high value. The most important thing is to BE YOURSELF. Be congruent with who you really are. Do not try to be some cool, player guy. It'll only come off as phony. You can get away with ANYTHING as long as it's coming from a place of congruance.

Be Confident. If you know you are going to show them a fun time it'll come through in subtle ways. You are giving value rather than taking it. You have cool things about yourself to offer that no one else has. Know what your strengths are, work with them and don't worry about where you may be weak.

Humor. Be playful, cocky and flirtatious.

Teach Her Something New. If you can show her something about herself or the world we live in she will see you have value to her and become interested in knowing more.

Lead the Interaction. If what you have to offer is more fun than what she was doing, she will want more.

Role Play. Come up with three or four games where you are both pretending to be other people. Just make sure you're the one in charge. Examples: Make her your tour guide, make her your body guard, start a business where you're her boss. Then playfully fire her or give her a raise.

Future Adventure Projection. Come up with an exciting vacation in a far away place or an adventure like skydiving, kayaking or mountain climbing.

Give Her a Playful Nickname.

Tease Her in Fun, Playful Ways.

Push-Pull. Tell her you like her then follow it with why that's a bad thing. Or the other way around. Examples: “I'm starting to like you. Maybe you should leave.” “You guys are too cool. Sort of.” “The way you dance is really turning me on. STOP IT!”

Telling Stories. Funny and/or interesting. These should be real from your own life.

Misinterpretation. Anything she says or does that could be confused with flirting with you.

Cold Reads. Tell her something about her self then contrast it by saying she's sometimes just the opposite. Example: “You give off a good girl vibe. But, something tells me there's a wild woman hidden inside there.”

More Cold Reads. Tell her she is so (whatever) She's just like (exaggeration) Example: “You guys are feisty. You're just like the power puff girls.”

Impressions and Accents. Use lines from funny movies. Pretend to be a cartoon character. Use an unattractive accent and spit out bad pick up lines.

Games and Magic Tricks. Use sparingly.

Physical Touch. Start light and work your way up. If she seems uncomfortable...

Takeaways. Back off and allow her to miss whatever you were doing.

Attraction happens so fast. It's in the wink of an eye. Later when you quiz her about what it was that did it for her she'll likely know exactly when it hit her. Exactly when and what made her think “oh yeah, I'm sleeping with this man.”

But, her feeling attracted to you isn't enough. I'll get into that next week.

This week I'm going to get into self esteem and confidence or “inner game,” to use a sports analogy. Confidence is different from self esteem in that the former is knowing your own abilities while the latter is how you view yourself. You need both to become attractive to women.

How well do you take care of yourself? Do you go the extra mile to be sure your clothes fit properly? Do you brush your teeth and groom yourself daily? When you have your hair cut do you get the cheapest haircut you can find or do you make an effort to find a good stylist that understands what haircut will work with the shape of your head and texture of your hair?

I'm not saying you have to spend $200.00 on a haircut and have all your clothes tailer made, unless that's what you want to do. However, going to a little higher priced stylist and having your shirts altered to fit better doesn't cost much and it will make a difference in how you look to others, as well as to yourself. When you can get shower, shave, get dressed, comb your hair, look in the mirror and say “Wow! I look damn good!” You will project a better vibe to the world. So, take good care of yourself because you deserve it.

Confidence comes from competence. You become competent through practice. You have to go out and talk to lots of women to become confident in your ability to interact, socialize and attract them. You will make mistakes. You will be rejected. You will be embarrassed and humiliated. These are all things you must work your way through to get to where you want to be.

If you decided you wanted to learn to play guitar you wouldn't expect to just pick one up and play like a rock star. You have to put in the time and practice to become good and developing your social skills is no different. You have to learn where the lines are and the only way to learn that is by crossing them many, many times.

You have to push beyond what you think is socially acceptable behavior. You may have to do things that your friends will put you down for doing. They will probably try to stop you from improving yourself. They like you being your old self. You have to ignore them and push ahead on your own.

Maybe you think you need something else to become attractive. This simply isn't true. You already have everything you need. In fact, many of the things you may think you need are really a disadvantage when it comes to meeting the kind of woman you really want to spend time with. Let's go over a few.

Money:

Many men think women want a man that can provide for her needs. Buy her a car, a house, nice clothes etc. Let me give you a news flash. YOU CANNOT BUY WOMEN. You may be able to rent them for a few hours. But, is that the type of woman you really want in your life? Moreover, displaying your wealth can communicate low self worth. It comes off as bragging more often than not. This is the 21st century. Women can make their own money. They don't need you for that.

Good Looks:

Good looks are nice to have. Like money, looks can open many doors. But, if you're a boring person, good looks won't help you attract women once you start talking to them. There are some women who are attracted to certain looks. Some girls like athletic guys while others like nerdy guys. This is the same as some men preferring blonds. If a woman had everything else you found attractive, would you kick her out of bed simply because she not a blond? I wouldn't!

Men Want Sex More Than Women.

This one is total bullshit. When a woman finds a man attractive she wants as much sex as he can handle! Women are simply more selective about who they want to sleep with. Also, most women won't admit to enjoying sex for fear of being labeled a slut. Having that tag carries social repercussions that can make life more difficult for her. Her reputation is important. But, she enjoys sex every bit as much as any man does. In fact, women very probably enjoy it more! Their orgasms are last longer and are deeper and wider than ours are. One might even say women's orgasms are more profound. Women LOVE their orgasms.

Attraction is an emotion. It can't be flipped on and off at will. A woman may meet a man that has everything she THINKS she wants. He has a good job, he comes from a good family, he lives in a good neighborhood. On “paper” he's very attractive. But, he just doesn't move her emotionally. So, she jumps on the back of a motorcycle with a guy in a leather jacket and no bank account. Why? Because he moved her emotionally.

To develop confidence you'll have to make mistakes. You'll have to risk looking foolish. There will be times when you feel like the kid in school that tripped in the lunchroom and spilled his tray of food all over the floor. You'll have to learn to laugh at yourself. The first 1000 women you talk to won't even count. But, it helps to understand female psychology. When you understand what moves her emotionally, she'll be begging to suck your cock. You can fuck her her up the ass, cum on her face and she'll even bring her girlfriends over to help her satisfy you!

So, what does move women emotionally? What do women value in a man? How can you get her interested in you? It is my opinion that above all else women value strength in a man. But, that doesn't mean physical strength. It means strength of character. It means he stands by his word and won't be easily swayed from his path. That is what women mean when they say they want a “real man.” Women want a man they can respect. A man to sit at the head of the table. A man that will lead, but is open to her thoughts and ideas. A man who is cool headed and calm under most any circumstances. A rock she can cling to when she is feeling uncertain. And she will test you, constantly, to be sure you have this quality. And the moment she discovers you slipping she will begin to lose her attraction for you. So, you must be congruent with who you clam to be at all times. In other words, never lie to her about anything.

She will test you by sort of poking at your armor. She'll throw little digs at you to see how you'll react. The way to pass her tests is to remain un-reactive. Don't let her push you off where you stand. Don't back peddle. But, don't argue with her either. This will display tolerance to social pressure. You don't care if she agrees with you or not.

Don't invest too much in the interaction. Don't offer to buy her a drink until after the two of you have starting to hit it off. Talk and vibe with her for 20 or 30 minutes before you offer to buy her a drink. You are waiting for her to earn the drink by connecting with you.

Be willing to walk away if she isn't into you. Don't chase her. Maybe this will come as a shock, but NOT EVERYONE IS GOING TO LIKE YOU. So what if one chick blows you off? There's another one just over there, maybe she'll be into you. Go and find out.

Wingmen

This week I'll be going into what makes a good wing as well as what a wing should be doing to help you out. It should go without saying you'll be doing the same for him.

Let's get started by laying out the way you approach and open a woman or group of women with a wing. You shouldn't go in together. If you do one of you will be talking to the girls while the other stands around with his thumb in his ass.

It's better if you go in alone, open the girls and then your wing can join in after a few minutes. When your wing comes in, turn to face him. This let's the girls know this man has value n your life. He's a close friend. Introduce him to the girls and allow him to take over for a few minutes. When you introduce him tell them something interesting about him, something unique. “Ladies, I'd like you to meet my very good friend Wing. This guy is the most amazing guitar player (or whatever) I've heard and he gets laid like a rock star!”

If your wingman has value and he's your friend, you must have some value as well. Then your wing can say “hey you guys, are you having a good night? So, how do you know Scoundrel here? You just met him? Well, let me tell you, this guy is nuts! He once rode his Harley through a crowded movie theater!” Now, your wing has just given you props. The two of you can go on about how cool the other one is without bragging. Your wing can tell the girls exactly why they should want to know you and you will do the same for him. Get it?

Another thing a good wing will do is follow your lead and agree with what you say. This will give you creditability even when you are saying something outrageous. That doesn't mean you should lie about something important like your job or how much money you have in the bank. It means you can joke around with the girls and fool them in a playful way.

For example you might say something like “you know, all the women in Brazil walk around nude all the time.” Then your wing might say “That's true! And none of them have any pubic hair.” After that you can take it up another notch and keep going back and forth until one of the girls calls you on it. It's fun!

Another way to open women with a wing is you open one group while your wing opens another. Then you can merge both groups. Say something like “you guys have to meet my friend Scoundrel. He is so cool and girls love him. You're going to love him.” He'll say something similar to his group. This way when you go in bringing girls and you find him with girls you both automatically have some value.

A good wing will also help you out by keep one girl occupied while you take the other one away to “show her something cool.” But, if your wing drops the ball the other girls will assume that sense he's dull, you must be dull too and they have to rescue their friend. They'll grab her and say, “let's go dance,” and you'll be SOL.

The rule is whoever opens the girls has first pick. However, there may be times when your first pick just isn't into you. If this happens let it go. It's likely that this girl just likes his type. Some girls like athletic guys and others like nerds. Remember, no one is able to score every time.

So, respect your wingman because it goes both ways.

Planning The Seduction

Okay, so you've taken her on a great date. You both had a fun and you've been slowly escalating your physical touch. You're both feeling the heat. It's on and you know it. But, you may still have a couple of hurdles to clear.

Before we get into what to do I want to discuss why a woman may resist sex even when she really wants it. There are two main reasons. The first is social pressure. She doesn't want you, or anyone else, thinking she's a slut. If she offers herself to soon others may look down on her. So, you have to stop thinking if she has sex with you too soon she's a slut. You must never judge her in this way. She needs to know you won't think any less of her.

The other reasons have to do with her evolutionary programming. Until the last 100 years or so, many women died during child birth. It isn't much of an issue today. But, she is programed to have a certain amount of fear and reluctance to a new sexual partner. This is because women invest much more in the continuation of our species than men do. A man only gives up a little sperm. But, a woman gives up nine months of her life to grow a child inside her and may even risk death. She may not know why she's feeling this need to resist. But, she feels like she's just put all her money on red and the wheel is spinning.

She needs to know you'll be around to help her if she gets pregnant. Truthfully, she may not even want you around. And she likely doesn't want to get pregnant. She just wants it to be up to her. 10,000 years ago a pregnant woman with no man didn't stand much of a chance of survival. Things are different today, but we were programmed to live back then. We're old models living in a new world and evolution hasn't caught up.

How long a woman waits before having sex is a huge concern. If she gives in too soon will you still cherish her? If she waits to long will you leave her for a woman that's more willing? Personally, if I sleep with a woman once, I'm planing on doing it many more times. But, if we've spent more than about 20 hours together and she still doesn't want to have sex with me, I'm cutting my losses and finding another woman.

As men it's our job to ease her through any reluctance she may be feeling. She has to want it as much as you do or you could end up in a date rape law suit. Remember no means no. Even when the both of you are completely nude, in bed and you're about to enter her. If she says no, YOU MUST STOP.

Let's get real here. Women aren't stupid. They know sex could happen when they go up to your place. Moreover, if she comes over she probably wants sex. But, that doesn't mean it's a given. She still wants to have the option of stopping. If you decided it was off, it would be off. You have to allow her the same power. However, if you follow the simple rules I'm going to give you she won't want to stop.

So, the first thing is to move slowly. I covered this a little last time, but it bears repeating. If at any time you feel her start to tense up or she feels the least bit uncomfortable STOP. Rewind and go back. She's having fun, but you cannot rush her. You're the driver, but you have to move at her pace. If you can stop just slightly BEFORE she says stop it will drive her wild with desire. You'll be teasing her and she'll love it and want you all the more.

Start by having her help you set the mood. Toss her some matches and say “Light the candles while I wash up.” Then go in the bathroom and wash your cock.

When you come out ask her if she wants to wash up while you turn on some music or start the DVD player or whatever you have planned. This will help her to get into the mood and she'll appreciate it.

There are three common times when she'll try to stop you. The first is when you start to remove her shirt and/or bra. She may say something like, “maybe we should stop.” If this happens agree with her. Tell her yes, you should stop. But, keep going. She didn't say stop. She said “maybe.”

If she still resists, stop. Stop kissing her. Stop cuddling with her. Stop touching her completely. If she asks you what's wrong don't get angry and do not whine. I'm sure you've tried both of these tactics already and know they don't work. Instead, tell her you understand. But, do not touch her for about five minutes. She may ask if you're angry. Tell her she said no and you respect that. In fact, hearing no turns you off. You're not mad, but making out leads to sex and if she doesn't want to have sex there are lots of other things the two of you can do. Then get up and check your email or something. Do this flatly, without emotion. Be indifferent.

She may try to get things moving again by kissing the back of your neck or caressing you. If she does tell her to take off her top. If she refuses just wait five minutes and you start again. Kiss her for a minute or so and tell her to take her top off. If she does you can get back to making out.

You want her to be bored and feel a little uncomfortable NOT making out with you. What's going on in her head is things were feeling good and now it's stopped. She doesn't want it to stop, so she has to follow your lead by taking of her top.

This is important because you are not forcing yourself on her. She is part of the seduction. It's mutual.

She may stop you again when you go for her pants. Again, tell her you understand and stop touching her. Turn on the TV or something. Do the least sexy thing you can think you can think of. Now she's the one that's frustrated. Give her about ten minutes this time and start again. Tell her to take off her pants.

Every time she says no or stop, you will stop and do what I said above. EVERY TIME.

Now, you're both nude. She's wet and you're hard. Do not enter her yet. Tease her first. Rub the head of your cock all around her pussy. Keep kissing her and playing with her breasts and rubbing her with your cock. Soon she'll say she wants you inside her. But, don't do it yet. Just continue teasing her. She may say “please” and start to beg. But, wait until she's asked for your prick three times. Then give her just a little bit of it and take it away. She'll beg for more and you can give her a little more. Keep this game going for fifteen or twenty minutes until she is about to burst.

Now, you can fuck her like there's no tomorrow! Enjoy yourself.